THIS IS HOW WE MISS OUT SOMETHING CALLED "LIFE"

A boy was born to a couple after eleven years of marriage. They were a loving couple and the boy was the gem of their eyes. When the boy was around two years old, one morning the husband saw a medicine bottle open. He was late for office so he asked his wife to cap the bottle and keep it in the cupboard. His wife, preoccupied in the kitchen totally forgot the matter. The boy saw the bottle and playfully went to the bottle fascinated by its color and drank it all. It happened to be a poisonous medicine meant for adults in small dosages. When the child collapsed the mother hurried him to the hospital, where he died. The mother was stunned. She was terrified how to face her husband. When the distraught father came to the hospital and saw the dead child, he looked at his wife and uttered just five words.

QUESTIONS :
1. What were the five words ?
2. What is the implication of this story? 

ANSWER :
The husband just said 
"I AM WITH YOU DARLING!!!"....The husband's totally unexpected reaction is a proactive behavior. The child is dead. He can never be brought back to life. There is no pointing finding fault with the mother. Besides, if only he had taken time to keep the bottle away, this would not have happened. No one is to be blamed. She had also lost her only child. What she needed at that moment was consolation and sympathy from the husband. That is what he gave her.If everyone can look at life with this kind of perspective, there would be much fewer problems in the world.

A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. Take off all your envies, jealousies, unforgiveness, selfishness, and fears. And you will find things are actually not as difficult as you think.

MORAL OF THE STORY:This story is really worth reading ..... Sometimes we spend time in asking who is responsible or whom to blame, whether in a relationship,in a job or with the people we know.
By this way we miss out something called LIFE.

PLZZZ READ THIS!!!! VERY TOUCHING!!!

A story worth reading!!!

4 years ago, an accident took my beloved away and very often I wonder, how does my wife, who is now in the heavenly realm, feel right now? She must be feeling extremely sad for leaving a husband who is incapable to taking care of the house and the kid. 'cos that is the exact feeling that I have, as I feel that I have failed to provide for the ph ysical and emotional needs of my child, and failed to be the dad and mom for my child.

There was one particular day, when I had an emergency at work. Hence, I had to leave home whilst my child was still sleeping. So thinking that there was still rice leftovers, I hastily cooked an egg and left after informing my sleepy child.

With the double roles, I am often exhausted at work as well as when I am home. So after a long day, I came home, totally drained of all energy. So with just a brief hug and kiss for my child, I went straight into the room, skipping dinner. However, when I jumped into my bed with intention of just having a well-deserved sleep, all i heard and felt was broken porcelain and warm liquid! I flipped open my blanket, and there lies the source of the 'problem'... a broken bowl with instant noodles and a mess on the bedsheet and blanket!

Boy, was I mad! I was so furious that I took a clothes hanger, charged straight at my child who was happily playing with his toy, and give him a good spanking! He merely cried but not asking for mercy, except a short explanation:

"Dad, I was hungry and there wasn't anymore leftover rice. But you were not back yet, hence I wanted to cook some instant noodles. But I remembered you reminding me not to touch or use the gas stove without any adults around, hence I turned on the shower and used the hot water from the bathroom to cook the noodles. One is for you and the other is for me. However, I was afraid that the noodles will turn cold, so I hid it under the blanket to keep it warm till you return. But I forgot to remind you 'cos I was playing with my toys...I am sorry Dad..."

At that moment, tears were starting to run down my cheeks...but I didn't want my son to see his dad crying so I dashed into the bathroom and cried with the shower head on to mask my cries. After that episode, I went towards my son to give him a tight hug and applied medication on him, while coaxing him to sleep. Then, it was time to clear up the mess on the bed. When everything was done and well past midnight, I passed my son's room, and saw that he was still crying, not from the pain on his little buttock, but from looking at the photograph of his beloved mommy.

A year has passed since the episode, I have tried, in this period, to focus on giving him both the love of his dad and mom, and to attend to most of his needs. And soon, he is turning seven, and will be graduating from kindergarten. Fortunately, the incident did not leave a lasting impression on his childhood memories and he is still happily growing up.

However, not so long ago, I hit my boy again, with much regret. This time, his kindergarten teacher called, informing me of my son's absence from school. I took off early from work and went home, expecting him to explain. But he wasn't to be found, so I went around our house, calling out his name and eventually found him outside a stationery shop, happily playing computer games. I was fuming, brought him home and whack the hell out of him. He did not retaliate, except to say, 'I am sorry, Dad'. But after much probing, I realized that it was a 'Talent Show' organized by his school and the invite is for every student's mommy. And that was the reason for his absence as he has no mommy.....

Few days after the caning, my son came home to tell me, the kindergarten has recently taught him how to read and write. Since then, he has kept to himself and stayed in his room to practice his writing, which I am sure, would make my wife proud, if she was still around. 'cos he makes me proud too!

Time passes by very quickly, and soon another year has passed. It's winter, and its Christmas time. Everywhere the Christmas spirit is in every passer-by...Christmas carols and frantic shoppers....but alas, my son got into another trouble. When I was about to knock off from the day's work, the post office called. Due to the peak season, the post master was also on an edgy mood. He called to tell me that my son has attempted to post several letters with no addressee. Although I did make a promise never to hit my son again, I couldn't help but to hit him as I feel that this child of mine is really beyond control. Once again, as before, he apologized, ' I'm sorry, Dad' and no additional reason to explain. I pushed him towards a corner, went to the post office to collect the letters with no addressee and came home, and angrily questioned my son on his prank, during this time of the year.

His answer, amidst his sobbing, was : The letters were for Mummy.

My eyes grew teary, but I tried to control my emotions and continued to ask him: " But why did u post so many letters, at one time?" My son's reply was: " I have been writing to mummy for a long time, but each time I reach out for the post box, it was too high for me, hence I was not able to post the letters. But recently, when I went back to the postbox, I could reach it and I sent it all at once..."

After hearing this, I was lost. Lost at not knowing what to do, what to say....

I told my son, " Son, mommy is in the heavenly kingdom, so in future, if you have anything to tell her, just burn the letter and it will reach mommy. My son, on hearing this, was much pacified and calm, and soon after, he was sleeping soundly. On promising that I will burn the letters on his behalf, I brought the letters outside, but couldn’t help opening the letter before they turn to ash. 

And one of the letters broke my heart....

Dear Mommy,

I miss you so much! Today, there was a 'Talent Show' in school, and the school invited all mothers for the show. But you are not around, so I did not want to participate as well. I did not tell Dad about it as I was afraid that Dad would start to cry and miss you all over again. Dad went around looking for me, but in order to hide my sadness, I sat in front of the computer and started playing games at one of the shops. Dad was furious, and he couldn’t help it but scolded and hit me, but I did not tell him the real reason. Mommy, everyday I see Dad missing you and whenever he think of you, he is so sad and often hide and cry in his room. I think we both miss you very very much. Too much for our own good I think. But Mommy, I am starting to forget your face. Can you please appear in my dreams so that I can see your face and remember you? I heard that if you fall asleep with the photograph of the person whom you miss, you will see the person in your dreams. But mommy, why haven’t you appear?

After reading the letter, I can’t stop sobbing. 'cos I can never replace the irreplaceable gap left behind by my wife....

For the females with children:

Don't do so much overtime. If you cannot finish the work, it must be some kind of problems within the company, and it is not your sole problem. Feedback to your boss. Endless overtime may not necessary be the answer to the problem. Take care of your health so that you can treasure and take care of yo ur little precious.

For the married men:

Drink less (or not at all), smoke less (or not at all), cos nothing can replace your good health, not even business nor clients.

Try thinking this way, are you able to work till your clients are totally dependent on you? or your boss is totally dependent on you? In this society, no one is indispensable. 

Take care of your health, so that you can take care of your little precious and your loved ones. 

For those singles out there:

Beauty lies in loving yourself first. 

With confidence and loving yourself, you will see the beauty in other things around you. You will be able to work better and happier. Don't let your health be affected by your work or your boss, so nothing matters more than your well being.

Pencil and Eraser-Inspirational

Pencil: I'm sorry.... Eraser: For what? You didn't do anything wrong. Pencil: I'm sorry cos you get hurt bcos of me. Whenever I made a mistake,  you're always there to erase it. But as you make my mistakes vanish, you  lose a part of yourself. You get smaller and smaller each time. Eraser: That's true. But I don't really mind. You see, I was made to do this.  I was made to help you whenever you do something wrong. Even though one day,  I know I'll be gone and you'll replace me with a new one, I'm actually happy with  my job. So please, stop worrying. I hate seeing you sad. :) I found this conversation between the pencil and the eraser very inspirational.  Parents are like the eraser whereas their children are the pencil. They're always  there for their children, cleaning up their mistakes. Sometimes along the way...  they get hurt, and become smaller (older, and eventually pass on). Though their  children will eventually find someone new (spouse), but parents are still happy  with what they do for their children, and will always hate seeing their precious ones  worrying, or sad. This is for all parents out there.

Some Valuable Informations....

Kindly, share this valuable information wherever possible.

1.  If you see children Begging anywhere in TAMIL NADU, please contact:
"RED SOCIETY" at 9940217816. They will help the children for their studies.

2.  Where you can search for any BLOOD GROUP, you will get thousand's of
donor address - www.friendstosupport.org

3. Engineering Students can register in www.campuscouncil.com to attend Off
Campus for 40 Companies.

4. Free Education and Free hostel for Handicapped/Physically Challenged
children.
Contact:- 9842062501 & 9894067506.

5. If anyone met with fire accident or people born with problems in their
ear, nose and mouth can get free PLASTIC SURGERY done by
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Everything is free. Contact : 045420-240668,245732

6. If you find any important documents like Driving license, Ration card,
Passport, Bank Pass Book, etc., missed by someone, simply put them into any
near by Post Boxes. They will automatically reach the owner and Fine will be
collected from them.

7.  By the next 10 months, our earth will become 4 degrees hotter than what
it is now. Our Himalayan glaciers are melting at rapid rate. So let all of
us lend our hands to fight GLOBAL WARMING.
 -Plant more Trees.
 -Don't waste Water & Electricity.
 -Don't use or burn Plastics

8. It costs 38 Trillion dollars to create OXYGEN for 6 months for all Human
beings on earth.
"TREES DO IT FOR FREE"
"Respect them and Save them"

9.  Special phone number for Eye bank and Eye donation: 04428281919
and 04428271616 (Sankara Nethralaya Eye Bank). For More information about
how to donate eyes plz visit - http://ruraleye.org/

10.  Heart Surgery free of cost for children (0-10 yr) Sri Valli Baba
Institute Banglore. 10.
Contact : 9916737471

11. Medicine for Blood Cancer!!!!
'Imitinef Mercilet' is a medicine which cures blood cancer. Its available
free of cost at "Adyar Cancer Institute in Chennai". Create Awareness. It
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Cancer Institute  in Adyar, Chennai

Category:  Cancer
Address:
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Landmark: Near Michael School
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12.  Please CHECK WASTAGE OF FOOD
If you have a function/party at your home in India and food gets wasted,
don't hesitate to call 1098 (only in India ) - Its not a Joke, This is the
number of Child helpline.

They will come and collect the food. Please circulate this message which can
help feed many children.

AND LETS TRY TO HELP INDIA BE A BETTER PLACE TO LIVE IN

Please Save Our Mother Nature for
"OUR FUTURE GENERATIONS"

Good Communication!!

This could happen at work, home or anywhere else where people 

jump into conclusions and not listen! 

Good COMMUNICATION 
is the best solution for many of problems that we might face in our life!

This is the most wonderful E-mail I have ever come across...

In the picture, just look at their condition.. no place to sleep, still they have
made some space for d cat n d dog... water poring from the roof but still
each 1 of them have a peaceful smile on their face.. Simply amazing!!!!! 

The happiest people in the world are not those who have no problems,
but those who learn to live with things that are less than perfect.
Keep Smiling Always.

Life Happiness Is Depends On Your Life Goal..........

This is a nice article...Please read...


There are a lot of books talking about how to be happy. It seems like everybody is looking for happiness.
Somebody reads a lot of books just to look for happiness in their life. It is hardly to find a book which relates your happiness with your life goal. 

Somebody does not know which education course is good for them. Somebody does not know which shirt or dress to choose. Somebody even does not know what to choose for lunch. Somebody likes to ask for other opinion on their own problem. And their life keeps repeating all these kind of things without thinking of solving them. Why people feel difficult to make a simple decision? People thought that this suppose to be a life for an ordinary human being?


Life is actually very simple. It is all depends on your life goal. If you don’t have a life goal or not clear about your life goal, your life will be not simple anymore, always facing some difficulties and unhappy things. If you don’t know which course is suitable for you, you are not clear about your life goal. If you ask for advice( not referring to knowledge ) from others on your own life, you are not clear about your life goal.

I strongly believe that, when you don’t know which shirt should be worn today, you should ask yourselves what is your life goal. When you feel angry with somebody, you should ask yourselves what is your life goal. When you worry about what will be your examination result, you should ask yourselves what is your life goal. We should be responsible on our own emotion. If you think you are in some kind of emotion which you don’t like, then you should ask yourselves what is wrong with you. Your life goal is not OK? Or even worst, you don’t have one clear goal.

Why we may allow one same problem to be happened again? Why don’t we try to solve it once for our life? We thought problem is normal for an ordinary human being? We thought life suppose to be filled by many unhappy events/things? We seems like not responsible on our emotion.

If we have set up our life goal, we should be responsible on all the consequences of it, including our emotion. If we can’t accept such consequences, then we suppose to adjust the goal. The goal could makes our life full of excitement. The goal could makes us always in trouble. The goal could makes our life simple and happy. What kind of life you want all depends on your goal. Please don’t blame that unhappy is normal for human being. Asking for advice for our own life is really ridiculous. How people may helps if people does not know about your life goal and only you are clear about your own life goal. Somebody even supplies advice base on their own life goal, instead of yours. They thought if they solve the problem using this way you should also use the same way.

Let say you are going to select an education course for your university, and there are course A and course B in front of you. Please ask yourselves, if you choose course A, are you going towards your goal? If you choose course B, are you going towards your goal? If both courses allowing you to achieve your goal, then simply choose one. If only course A allowing you to achieve your goal, then choose course A. If both courses are not allowing you to achieve your goal, then looks for the course which allows you to achieve your goal. What is so difficult? The difficult part is, if we don’t have a life goal. If so, nobody can helps you. You can’t ask somebody on how to solve your problem.

The existence of the problem is coming from you. It is not coming from the environment. Of course there are a lot of people solving the course problem through another method. They try to find out which course is more popular or which course may makes them earn more money in future. These kind of consideration is no longer coming from yourselves( internal factor ). It is an external factor. If you got a wrong information, found it after joining the course and feel angry on it, what is the cause of your anger? It is caused by yourselves, not caused by the person who gave you the information. At the time you use this kind of method in choosing your course, you should be aware of this kind of risk and accept all the consequences.

Happiness is a personal thing. So in doing whatever job, making whatever decision, we should do it ourselves and not letting other to do it for us. We have to make the decision base on what we want for our life. We can’t( just my suggestion ) let other to decide our happiness. If you allow other to decide it for you, then you have to accept the consequences and be happy with whatever you will be facing. It is hardly to find a person who let other to control their life and still feel very happy on their life.

The main factor to differentiate adults with kids is, adults could take responsibility and knowing very well about the consequences but kids could not. If we look around, we may find a lot of people with an adult body who can’t take responsibility and don’t know or don’t care about the consequences. Especially of they can’t responsible on their own emotion. Our emotion is actually the result of our choice.

Our life goal is our choice. We should think deeply to find a best goal for ourselves. We are having 100% of the power to choose our own life goal base on our interest and what we want for our life. After decided the goal, we live according to our goal. Whatever happened after that are affecting our emotion. So the emotion is the result of our life goal. The emotion is the result of our own choice. 

Making An Important Point ...

A worried woman went to her gynecologist and  said: 'Doctor, I have a serious problem and desperately need your  help! My baby is not even 1 year old and I'm pregnant again. I don't want  kids so close together.   So the doctor said: 'Ok and what do you want me to do?' She said: 'I want you to end my pregnancy, and I'm  counting on your help with this.' The doctor thought for a little,  and after some silence he said to the lady: 'I think I have a better  solution for your problem. It's less dangerous for you too.'

 She  smiled, thinking that the doctor was going to accept her request.  Then he continued: 'You see, in order for you not to have to take  care 2 babies at the same time, let's kill the one in your arms.This way,  you could rest some before the other one is born. If we're going to kill  one of them, it doesn't matter which one it is.There would be no risk for  your body if you chose the one in your arms. The lady was horrified and said: 'No doctor! How  terrible! It's a crime to kill a child! 'I agree', the doctor replied.  'But you seemed to be OK with it, so I thought maybe that was the best  solution.The doctor smiled, realizing that he had made his point.  He convinced the mom that there is no difference in killing a  child that's already been born and one that's still in the womb.The crime  is the same! 

Together we can help save precious lives! Learn from Yesterday,  live for Today, hope for Tomorrow..  

THOUGHTS FROM GREAT PERSONALITIES....

11 beautiful paintings of Life...

How to handle Insult

Buddha explained how to handle insult and maintain compassion.

One day Buddha was walking through a village. A very angry and rude young man came up and began insulting him. "You have no right teaching others," he shouted. "You are as stupid as everyone else. You are nothing but a fake."

Buddha was not upset by these insults. Instead he asked the young man "Tell me, if you buy a gift for someone, and that person does not take it, to whom does the gift belong?"

The man was surprised to be asked such a strange question and answered, "It would belong to me, because I bought the gift."

Buddha then smiled and said, "That is correct. And it is exactly the same with your anger. If you become angry with me and I do not get insulted, then the anger falls back on you. You are then the only one who becomes unhappy, not me. All you have done is hurt yourself."

"If you want to stop hurting yourself, you must get rid of your anger and become loving instead. When you hate others, you yourself become unhappy. But when you love others, everyone is happy."

The young man listened closely to these wise words of Buddha. "You are right, o Enlightened One, "he said. "Please teach me the path of love. I wish to become your follower."

Then Buddha answered kindly, "Of course. I teach anyone who truly wants to learn. Come with me."

Speech by Bryan Dyson (CEO of Coca Cola)

VERY SHORT, MOST EFFECTIVE AND HOW TRUE... 30 second Speech by Bryan Dyson (CEO of Coca Cola)

 "Imagine life as a game in which you are juggling somefive balls in the air. You name them - Work, Family, Health, Friends and Spirit and you're keeping all of these in the Air. You will soon understand that work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back. But the other four Balls - Family, Health, Friends andSpirit - are made of glass. If you drop one of these; they will be irrevocably scuffed, marked, nicked, damaged or even shattered. They will never be the same. You must understand that and strive for it.
"WHEN FRIENDS CHANGE JOBS, DONT LOSE A FRIEND.......... "
"VALUE HAS A VALUE ONLY IF ITS VALUE IS VALUED”  

Embracing Imperfection

Hope you find this as true as I do.  It is worth reflecting on .... carefully and honestly!  :)

  

A Story by a girl.  "When I was a little girl, my mom liked to make breakfast food for dinner every now and then. And I remember one night in particular when she had made breakfast after a long, hard day at work. On that evening so long ago, my mom placed a plate of eggs, sausage, and extremely burned toast in front of my dad. I remember waiting to see if anyone noticed! Yet all my dad did was reach for his toast, smile at my mom, and ask me how my day was at school. I don't remember what I told him that night, but I do remember Watching him smear butter and jelly on that toast and eat every bite!When I got Up from the table that evening, I remember hearing my mom apologize to my dad For burning the toast. And I'll never forget what he said: 'Baby, I love burned toast.' Later that night, I went to kiss Daddy good night and I asked him if He really liked his toast burned. He wrapped me in his arms and said, 'Debbie, your Momma put in a hard day at work today and she's real tired. And besides-a little burnt toast never hurt anyone!' You know, life is full of imperfect things.....and imperfect people. I'm not the best housekeeper or cook.What I've learned over the years is that learning to accept each other's faults - and choosing to celebrate each other's differences - is the one of the most important keys to creating a healthy, growing, and lasting relationship.And that's my prayer for you today. That you will learn to take the good, the bad, and the ugly parts of your life and lay them at the feet of GOD. Because in the end, He's the only One who will be able to give you a relationship where burnt toast isn't a deal-breaker!  We could extend this to any relationship in fact - as understanding is the base of any relationship, be it a husband-wife or parent-child or friendship!! "  "Don't put the key to your happiness in someone else's pocket but into your own."

DIVINE CHAT

God: Hello. Did you call me?   

Me: Called you? No.....who is this?   

God: This is GOD. I heard your prayers. So I thought I will chat.. 

Me: I do pray. Just makes me feel good. I am actually busy now. I am in the midst of something.   

God: What are you busy at?   

Me: Don't know. But I cannot find free time. Life has become hectic. It's rush hour all the time.   

God: Well I wanted to resolve your fight for time, by giving you some clarity. In this next era, I wanted to reach you through the medium you are comfortable with.   

Me: Tell me, why has life become complicated now?   

God: Stop analyzing life. Just live it. Analysis is what makes it complicated.   

Me: Why are we then constantly unhappy?   

God: Your today is the tomorrow that you worried about yesterday.. You are worrying because you are analyzing. Worrying has become your habit. That's why you are not happy.   

Me: But how can we not worry when there is so much uncertainty?   

God: Uncertainty is inevitable, but worrying is optional.   

Me: But then, there is so much pain due to uncertainty. ....   

God: Pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional.   

Me: If suffering is optional, why do good people always suffer?   

God: Diamond cannot be polished without friction. Gold cannot be purified without fire. Good people go through trials, but don not suffer. With that experience their life becomes better not bitter.   

Me: You mean to say such experience is useful?   

God: Yes. In all terms, Experience is a hard teacher. She gives the test first and the lessons afterwards.   

Me: But still, why should we go through such tests? Why can’t we be free from problems?   

God: Problems are Purposeful Roadblocks Offering Beneficial Lessons (to) Enhance Mental Strength. Inner strength comes from struggle and endurance, not when you are free from problems.   

Me: Frankly in the midst of so many problems, we don't know where we are heading   

God: If you look outside you will not know where you are heading.. Look inside. Looking outside, you dream. Looking inside, you awaken. Eyes provide sight. Heart provides insight.   

Me: Sometimes not succeeding fast seems to hurt more than moving in the right direction. What should I do?

God: Success is a measure as decided by others. Satisfaction is a measure as decided by you. Knowing the road ahead is more satisfying than knowing you rode ahead. You work with the compass. Let others work with the clock.   

Me: In tough times, how do you stay motivated?   

God: Always look at how far you have come rather than how far you have to go. Always count your blessing, not what you are missing.   

Me: What surprises you about people?   

God: When they suffer they ask, "why me?" When they prosper, they never ask "Why me". Everyone wishes to have truth on their side, but few want to be on the side of the truth.   

Me: Sometimes I ask, who am I, why am I here? I can’t get the answer.   

God: Seek not to find who you are, but to determine who you want to be. Stop looking for a purpose as to why you are here. Create it. Life is not a process of discovery but a process of creation.   

Me: How can I get the best out of life?   

God: Face your past without regret. Handle your present with confidence. Prepare for the future without fear.   

Me: One last question. Sometimes I feel my prayers are not answered. 

God: There are no unanswered prayers. At times the answer is NO.   

Me: Thank you for this wonderful chat. I now have a new sense of inspiration. 

God: Keep the faith and drop the fear. Don't believe your doubts and doubt your beliefs. Life is a mystery to solve not a problem to resolve. Trust me. Life is wonderful if you know how to live.